英国女星坦迪·牛顿演讲《拥抱他人,接受自己》

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Embracing otherness. When I first heard this theme, I thought, well, embracing otherness is embracingmyself.

拥抱他人。当我第一次听到这个主题时，我觉得拥抱他人就是拥抱我自己。

And the journey to that place of understanding andacceptance has been an interesting one for me,

对于我来说，通往理解和接纳的路是十分有意思的。

and it's given me an insight into the whole notion of self, which I think is worth sharing withyou today.

并且让我对“自我”这一概念，有了深刻的理解，我想这值得在今天和你们分享。

We each have a self, but I don't think that we're born with one. You know how newborn babiesbelieve they're part of everything; they're not separate?

我们都有一个自我，但我并不认为这是与生俱来的，你看那些刚出生的小婴儿，他们认为自己属于任何事物，他们并不是脱离的。

Well that fundamental sense of oneness is lost on us very quickly. It's like that initial stage isover -- oneness: infancy, unformed, primitive.

这种最基本的同一性，会很快从我们身上消失，如同最初始的状态已经结束，同一性：婴儿期，未成形的，原始的。

It's no longer valid or real. What is real is separateness, and at some point in early babyhood, the idea of self starts to form.

它将不复存在。取而代之的是分离，在婴儿期的某一点，关于自我的意识开始萌芽。

Our little portion of oneness is given a name, is told all kinds of things about itself,

我们同一性的一小部分被赋予了一个名字，被告知关于它自己的任何事情，

and these details, opinions and ideas become facts, which go towards building ourselves, ouridentity.

这些细节，观点和想法变成事实，这些都帮我们形成自我以及自己的身份。

And that self becomes the vehicle for navigating our social world.

然后这个自我就成为一个工具，用来探索周围的这个世界。

But the self is a projection based on other people's projections. Is it who we really are? Or whowe really want to be, or should be?

但是这个自我实际上是一个投影，以其他人的投影为基础，这就是真正的我们吗？是我们真正想成为，或者应该成为的人吗？

So this whole interaction with self and identity was a very difficult one for me growing up.

在我成长过程中，我一直都很难处理自我与身份之间的相互影响。

The self that I attempted to take out into the world was rejected over and over again.

那个我尝试着向周围的世界展示的自我被一次又一次拒绝。

And my panic at not having a self that fit, and the confusion that came from my self beingrejected,

因为没有一个合适的自我而带来的恐慌，以及因为被拒绝而产生的惶恐。

created anxiety, shame and hopelessness, which kind of defined me for a long time.

引起了我的焦虑，羞愧，还有无望。这些在很长一段时间里都限制了我。

But in retrospect, the destruction of my self was so repetitive that I started to see apattern.

但当我回想过去，对于自我的毁灭反复出现，我开始看出一些规律。

The self changed, got affected, broken, destroyed, but another one would evolve -- sometimes stronger, sometimes hateful, sometimes not wanting to be there at all.

一个自我被改变，被影响，被打击破坏，但有一个新的会形成，有时更强，有时充满仇恨，有时则根本不想出现。

The self was not constant. And how many times would my self have to die before I realizedthat it was never alive in the first place?

这个自我并不是恒定的，在我还没有意识到这个自我曾经从未存在时，我的“自我” 会死多少次呢？

I grew up on the coast of England in the '70s. Mydad is white from Cornwall, and my mom is blackfrom Zimbabwe.

我于上世纪七十年代，生长在英格兰的海岸边，我父亲是来自康沃尔的白人，我母亲是来自津巴布韦的黑人。

Even the idea of us as a family was challenging tomost people. But nature had its wicked way, andbrown babies were born.

对于许多人来说，是无论如何也想不到我们是一家人。但大自然自有意想不到的一面，棕色的孩子出生了。

But from about the age of five, I was aware that I didn't fit. I was the black atheist kid in theall-white Catholic school run by nuns.

但自从五岁开始，我就察觉出我的格格不入。我是一个信奉无神论的黑人孩子，在一个由修女运转的白人天主学校。

I was an anomaly, and my self was rooting around for definition and trying to plug in.

我是一个另类，我的自我在不断寻找一个定义，并试图将自己套入定义。

Because the self likes to fit, to see itself replicated, to belong. That confirms its existence andits importance. And it is important.

因为自我都是愿意去融入，看到自己被复制，有归属感。那能确认自我的存在感和重要性，这很重要。

It has an extremely important function. Without it, we literally can't interface with others.

这有一个极端重要的功能，没有一个对自我的定义，我们简直不能和其他人交流。

We can't hatch plans and climb that stairway of popularity, of success. But my skin colorwasn't right.

我们无法制定计划，无法爬上潮流和成功的阶梯，但我的肤色不对。

My hair wasn't right. My history wasn't right. My self became defined by otherness, whichmeant that, in that social world, I didn't really exist.

我的发色不对，我的来历不对，我的自我被他人定义，这意味着在社会上，我并不存在。

And I was "other" before being anything else -- even before being a girl. I was a noticeablenobody.

我首先被定义为一个另类，甚至先于被定义为一个女孩，我是一个引人注意的没有人。

Another world was opening up around this time: performance and dancing. That naggingdread of self-hood didn't exist when I was dancing.

在这个时候，另一个世界出现了，那就是表演和舞蹈。对于自我纠缠不清的恐惧，在我跳舞时并不存在。

I'd literally lose myself. And I was a really good dancer. I would put all my emotionalexpression into my dancing.

我像是失去了自己，我是一个好的舞蹈演员，我会把我所有的感情投入到舞蹈中去。

I could be in the movement in a way that I wasn't able to be in my real life, in myself.

在舞蹈中，我能完成我在现实中自己无法做到的动作。

And at 16, I stumbled across another opportunity, and I earned my first acting role in a film.

当我16岁时，我无意中遇到另一个机遇，得到了我的第一个电影角色。

I can hardly find the words to describe the peace Ifelt when I was acting.

我难以找到言语来形容在表演中我感受到的平静。

My dysfunctional self could actually plug in toanother self, not my own, and it felt so good.

我那残缺的自我，终于融入了不是我自己的另一个自我，这种感觉真好。

It was the first time that I existed inside a fully-functioning self -- one that I controlled, that Isteered, that I gave life to.

那是我第一次存在于一个正常运作的自我，一个我可以控制的，可以操纵的，可以赋予生命的自我。

But the shooting day would end, and I'd return to my gnarly, awkward self.

但是拍摄的日子终会结束，我也会回到我那扭曲尴尬的自我。

By 19, I was a fully-fledged movie actor, but still searching for definition.

当我19岁时，我已经是一个羽翼丰满的电影演员，但却仍在寻找定义。

I applied to read anthropology at university. Dr. Phyllis Lee gave me my interview, and sheasked me, "How would you define race?"

我在大学里申请攻读人类学。Phyllis Lee博士对我进行了面试，她问我：“你怎样定义种族？”

Well, I thought I had the answer to that one, and I said, "Skin color." "So biology, genetics?" she said."

嗯，我觉得我有答案，然后我说：“肤色。” 她继续问道：“也就是生物学基因上的差异？”

Because, Thandie, that's not accurate. Because there's actually more genetic differencebetween a black Kenyan and a black Ugandan than there is between a black Kenyan and, say, awhite Norwegian.

“因为，桑迪，肤色并不准确。在一个黑皮肤的肯尼亚人和一个黑皮肤的乌干达人之间存在的基因差异，实际上超过在一个黑皮肤的肯尼亚人和一个，比如说，白皮肤的挪威人之间的差异。

Because we all stem from Africa. So in Africa, there's been more time to create geneticdiversity."

因为我们都起源于非洲，所以在非洲，更有可能产生基因多样性。”

In other words, race has no basis in biological or scientific fact. On the one hand, result. Right?

换句话说，种族这一说法并没有生物学或科学基础，一方面，这是结果，对吗？

On the other hand, my definition of self just lost a huge chunk of its credibility.

另一方面，我对自我的定义则失去了相当大一部分的可信度。

But what was credible, what is biological and scientific fact, is that we all stem from Africa -- in fact, from a woman called Mitochondrial Eve who lived 160,000 years ago.

可以相信的，以及生物学和科学事实，就是我们都起源于非洲。实际上，起源于一个叫做线粒体夏娃的女人，她生活在十六万年前。

And race is an illegitimate concept which our selves have created based on fear andignorance.

种族是一个不合法的概念，是我们基于恐惧和无知自己创造出来的。

Strangely, these revelations didn't cure my low self-esteem, that feeling of otherness.

奇怪的是，这些启示，并没有治愈我那缺少的自尊，那种被划为另类的感觉。

My desire to disappear was still very powerful. I hada degree from Cambridge; I had a thriving career,

我渴望消失的想法依旧十分强烈，我有一个剑桥的学位，我的事业蒸蒸日上。

but my self was a car crash, and I wound up with bulimia and on a therapist's couch.

但我的自我却如同一场车祸，最终我患上贪食症，并接受治疗。

And of course I did. I still believed my self was all I was. I still valued self-worth above all otherworth, and what was there to suggest otherwise?

我当然会这样，我依旧相信我的自我就是我的全部。我依旧认为自我价值高于其余任何价值，不然还能怎样呢？

We've created entire value systems and a physical reality to support the worth of self.

我们创造了整个价值系统，以及一个客观的现实，用以支持自我的价值。 Look at the industry for self-image and the jobs it creates, the revenue it turns over. 看看由个人形象带动的产业，还有它提供的工作，以及它创造的价值。

We'd be right in assuming that the self is an actual living thing. But it's not.

我们可能会假设，这个自我是真实存在的，但我们错了；

It's a projection which our clever brains create in order to cheat ourselves from the reality ofdeath.

这只是一个投影，是由我们聪明的大脑创造出来的，来欺骗我们自己，无需面对死亡的现实。

But there is something that can give the self ultimate and infinite connection -- and that thingis oneness, our essence.

Strangely, these revelations didn't cure my low self-esteem, that feeling of otherness.

奇怪的是，这些启示，并没有治愈我那缺少的自尊，那种被划为另类的感觉。

My desire to disappear was still very powerful. I hada degree from Cambridge; I had a thriving career,

我渴望消失的想法依旧十分强烈，我有一个剑桥的学位，我的事业蒸蒸日上。

but my self was a car crash, and I wound up with bulimia and on a therapist's couch.

但我的自我却如同一场车祸，最终我患上贪食症，并接受治疗。

And of course I did. I still believed my self was all I was. I still valued self-worth above all otherworth, and what was there to suggest otherwise?

我当然会这样，我依旧相信我的自我就是我的全部。我依旧认为自我价值高于其余任何价值，不然还能怎样呢？

We've created entire value systems and a physical reality to support the worth of self.

我们创造了整个价值系统，以及一个客观的现实，用以支持自我的价值。

Look at the industry for self-image and the jobs it creates, the revenue it turns over.

看看由个人形象带动的产业，还有它提供的工作，以及它创造的价值。

We'd be right in assuming that the self is an actual living thing. But it's not.

我们可能会假设，这个自我是真实存在的，但我们错了；

It's a projection which our clever brains create in order to cheat ourselves from the reality ofdeath.

但总有一些事能赋予自我终极无尽的联系，那就是同一性，我们的本源。

The self's struggle for authenticity and definition will never end unless it's connected to itscreator -- to you and to me.

自我对于真实性和定义的挣扎永远不会停止，除非自我能够与创造者相连，与你，与我。

And that can happen with awareness -- awareness of the reality of oneness and theprojection of self-hood.

这和意识的觉醒一同存在，意识到同一性的现以及自我的投影。

For a start, we can think about all the times when we do lose ourselves. It happens when Idance, when I'm acting.

一开始，我们可以想想，那些我们失去自我的时候，当我跳舞时，表演时，

I'm earthed in my essence, and my self is suspended.

我根植于我的本源，我的自我被抑制了。

In those moments, I'm connected to everything -- the ground, the air, the sounds, the energyfrom the audience.

在那些时刻，我与万物相连，大地，空气，声音，观众的能量。

All my senses are alert and alive in much the same way as an infant might feel -- that feelingof oneness.

我的所有感官都是警觉和鲜活的，如同一个婴儿感受到的一般，那种同一性的感觉。

And when I'm acting a role, I inhabit another self, and I give it life for awhile, because when the self issuspended so is divisiveness and judgment.

当我表演一个角色时，我进入了另一个自我，我在一段时间内赋予其生命，当自我被抑制时，它的多样性和判断也会一同被抑制。

And I've played everything from a vengeful ghost inthe time of slavery to Secretary of State in 2004.

我出演过许多角色，从奴隶时代想要复仇的鬼魂，到2004年的国务卿。

And no matter how other these selves might be, they're all related in me.

无论这些角色是多么的不同，他们全都与我相连。

And I honestly believe the key to my success as an actor and my progress as a person has beenthe very lack of self that used to make me feel so anxious and insecure.

我诚恳地认为，我作为一个演员能够成功的关键，以及作为一个不断进步的人是因为自我的缺失，这让我觉得非常焦虑和不安。

I always wondered why I could feel others' pain so deeply, why I could recognize thesomebody in the nobody.

我总是在想，为什么我能如此深切地感受到他人的痛苦，为什么我能辨认出一个被忽视的人。

It's because I didn't have a self to get in the way.

那是因为我没有一个自我挡在中间。

I thought I lacked substance, and the fact that I could feel others' meant that I had nothing ofmyself to feel.

我想我缺少一种介质，我能够感受他人这个事实说明我感受不到我自己。

The thing that was a source of shame was actually a source of enlightenment.

这曾经导致了我的羞愧，其实是给我启蒙的源头。

And when I realized and really understood that my self is a projection and that it has afunction, a funny thing happened.

当我意识到并真正明白自我是一个投影，并有它自己的功能时，一件有意思的事发生了。

I stopped giving it so much authority. I give it its due. I take it to therapy. I've become veryfamiliar with its dysfunctional behavior.

我不再给我的自我过多的权利，我给它应得的回报，我带它去治疗，我已经非常熟悉自我的不正常运作了。

But I'm not ashamed of my self. In fact, I respect my self and its function.

但我并不为我的自我感到羞愧，事实上，我尊重我的自我和它的功能。

And over time and with practice, I've tried to live more and more from my essence. And if youcan do that, incredible things happen.

经过时间和练习，我不断尝试过一种顺从我的本源的生活。如果你能做到这一点，将会发生不可思议的事情

I was in Congo in February, dancing and celebratingwith women who've survived the destruction oftheir selves in literally unthinkable ways --

二月份的时候我在刚果，与那些自我曾遭受难以想象的毁灭的女人们一起跳舞庆祝。

destroyed because other brutalized, psychopathicselves all over that beautiful land are fueling ourselves' addiction to iPods, Pads, and bling,

因为在那片美丽的土地上，那些被残酷对待的心理变态的自我正不断满足我们对于iPod以及iPad等光鲜事物的瘾。

which further disconnect ourselves from ever feeling their pain, their suffering, their death.

这些更进一步阻碍我们去感受她们的痛苦，她们的遭遇，她们的死亡。

Because, hey, if we're all living in ourselves and mistaking it for life, then we're devaluing anddesensitizing life.

因为当我们都活在自己的世界里，并以为这就是生活，那我们就是在贬低生活的价值，并且变得越来越迟钝。

And in that disconnected state, yeah, we can build factory farms with no windows, destroymarine life and use rape as a weapon of war.

在那样一个被隔断的状态里，我们可以建造没有窗户的工厂，破坏海洋生命，把强奸视为战争的一种武器。

So here's a note to self: The cracks have started to show in our constructed world, and oceanswill continue to surge through the cracks, and oil and blood, rivers of it.

这有一个对自我的建议，在我们这个被构造的世界里，已经开始出现裂缝，海水将持续不断从裂缝中涌出，石油和鲜血汇流成河。

Crucially, we haven't been figuring out how to live in oneness with the Earth and every otherliving thing.

关键在于我们尚未找出，怎样与地球和万物一起生活在同一性中。

We've just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other -- billions of eachother.

我们一直在疯狂地寻找，怎样和数十亿的其他人一起生活。

Only we're not living with each other; our crazy selves are living with each other andperpetuating an epidemic of disconnection.

只是我们并非和其他人一起生活，我们疯狂的自我们在一起生活，与他人的隔断也如同传染病一般蔓延。

Let's live with each other and take it a breath at a time.

让我们生活在一起，歇一口气，慢慢来。

If we can get under that heavy self, light a torch of awareness, and find our essence, ourconnection to the infinite and every other living thing.

如果我们能进入那沉重的自我，点燃一支觉察的火炬，寻找我们的本源，我们和永恒以及万物的联系。

We knew it from the day we were born. Let's not be freaked out by our bountiful nothingness.

我们从出生那天就知道的联系。我们无须因为大量的空虚而慌张。

It's more a reality than the ones our selves have created.

相比于我们创造出的那些，这空虚更加真实。

Imagine what kind of existence we can have if we honor inevitable death of self, appreciatethe privilege of life and marvel at what comes next.

想像我们能有怎样的存在方式，如果我们正视自我不可避免的死亡，感恩生命的权利，惊异于即将到来的事物。

Simple awareness is where it begins. Thank you for listening.

这些都来自于简单的觉察。感谢聆听。

英国女星坦迪·牛顿 Thandie Newton是《当幸福来敲门》中狠心离开的妈妈，《西部世界》中带领机器人觉醒的首领、更是《碟中谍》里性感致命的女间谍。她在讲台上诉说自己曾经的挣扎与纠结：一个人的一生，就是一边成长，一边不断地寻找自己。

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